22 February 2016

Bucharest Spring

Looking back at my life right now I realize that is has been a year since I quit my job in Holland. In April it will be a year since I came to Romania. I can’t believe it has only been a year, so much has happened since then and I have the feeling five years have passed…I hope I haven’t aged five years instead of the one, though I do feel like I matured a bit more. Not necessarily good because I was supposed to lighten up instead of becoming even more serious.

I have been experiencing work here for almost two months and I have to say it’s so much different than in Holland. I love the people and I like the atmosphere. Though I must say that taking the metro every day is quite an adventure. You never quite know what to expect. Sometimes it’s so crowded that you can’t even breathe but when you get out…the freedom is so sweet.  I still miss driving a car but hey, you can’t have them all, maybe one day I’ll have a car or finally finish those motorcycle lessons.

I have experienced the harsh winter weather in Romania though I must say it has been rather mild with me…for now. -20 degrees at night seemed to be my limit and I grew grumpy and irritable realizing that cold weather will never be my friend. Though if I started living in the sun all year long I would eventually take the sun and its warmth for granted.

Today it was almost 20 degrees outside and that gave me the feeling of hope and happiness. Spring is coming and I just love it! Soon 'Martisor' (it won't be like the one in Holland)will be knocking on our doors and Saint Patrick and so many more reasons to go out and celebrate.

I haven’t stopped learning. I learn every day that I must be patient with everything and especially with myself. I shouldn’t force life or love. And I should be thankful for all the people that come into my life and not be sad when some of them leave. Some people are meant to come and leave, don’t judge them, don’t hate them, just be thankful for what they taught you and let them be. Don’t try to change them and don’t try to make up an excuse for their reactions and feelings. I realized that my greatest mistake was seeing people for what they could become instead of what they are. I created too many expectations or created an image in my mind of how that person must be, how great it could become. But I should just look at the person as he or she is and take it for what it is.

Control. That was always my struggle. Being in control of everything and always wanting to know what will happen. But as I had said before, if I have control over every aspect of my life, I will never be surprised and I will never be able to live.

I am happy with my life, what I have accomplished and what I can yet realize. And I am glad I can restart finding joy in the little things. I love taking pictures of how the sky looks when I wake up in the morning. I love discovering new cute cafe’s and chatting with my friends. I love taking my time in studying the art of magic. I want to cherish my life now because that is all I have. I want to close my eyes and be surprised when I’m least expected. I want to listen to new music, see funny plays, just act damn goofy (like me in this picture), meet even more new and strange people, laugh, let go and forget of how life should be or could be. And I want to keep on challenging myself to learn more, see more and stop taking myself so damn serious.

10 February 2016

Love Potion Nr. 9 (Valentine Great Ideas...yeah right)

Don’t we all love Valentine? Noooot! Oh so sorry, was I a bit too negative? Ok let’s face it Valentine is wonderful when it’s not forced on a particular day creating certain expectations from men or women. In Romania we also have Martisor on the 1st of March and women’s day on the 8th of March so from a guy’s point of you you’d have to buy three presents within a month time. Fuck it! Can’t you just get one for all three days? 

But no worries. I am here to help. I have a few gift suggestions. They’re cheap, spontaneous and effortless! Hey, what else can a man hope for? So MEN pay attention to these wonderful gift ideas!

1       1. Always carry me with you
What better way to show your partner that you love her than to give her something of you to carry with her all the time?

You’ll need some rope and paper (it can also be toilet paper). Clip or bite off your nails above the paper (you can also pluck a few locks of your hair if you’ve just ran out of nails). Tie up the paper with the rope creating a small sachet and put it on your partner’s pillow. Oh how thrilled she will be!

2       2. Surprise breakfast in bed
Breakfast in bed is what all women want for sure. So this year you can surprise her and make her wish come true. But breakfast…it’s so cliché…

Well, some coffee or tea might do. Make a nice steamy cup of coffee or tea for your partner and leave it next to her side of the bed so when she’ll wake up…she’ll know you thought of her. If you aren’t an early bird just prepare it the night before, meaning put a tea or instant coffee bag in a cup and leave a note: ‘add water’. That way she will also have a romantic handwritten note from you. I say: true love never acted to sweet!

3      3. Romantic Walk
All women love to walk and talk and walk and talk some more. Give your partner some quality time and show her that you are such a great listener.

Take her on a surprise walk to the park. Hold her hand and tell her you know she’s the kind of girl who appreciates these kinds of gestures instead of flowers, chocolate, diamonds and all the crap that all the standard women wish for. Tell her you appreciate her for being so different.  Put some music on and enjoy to the fullest!

4    4.  Movie night
Women love movie nights, especially if their partner puts some effort into planning it.

Surprise her with a movie night. Give her some saying in this whole thing. You choose the movie and she can handle the food and drinks. This way she will feel like you two are working together.  Choose something you feel comfortable with like a karate or horror movie. This way you won’t fall asleep half through the movie and you can cuddle up with your girl until the movie ends.

      5. Respectful Dinner
Nothing says more romance than a dinner for two. But times have changed so you should too.
Ask your partner to dinner. Let her choose a restaurant she likes. Don’t be reluctant in letting her pay the bill. Tell her that you appreciate her for being so independent and strong. And do order all the expensive stuff on the Menu, that way she will know you are not holding back on her.

6    6. Shopping surprise
Women love shopping! That’s for sure. Why not invest some time in doing this together?

Tell her you’re taking her shopping but…be spontaneous and take her to a pub instead. She will be so amazed by your sudden surprise that she’ll even buy all the drinks for you.

7    7. Every day is perfect letter
Writing a letter is so old fashioned but that’s how it has become so romantic these days.

Leave a note saying the following:

 ‘I don’t want to celebrate Valentine or any other day dedicated to love because every day is Valentine with you. My gift to you is my love and as long as we have each other what do else do we need?’

Oh you can also just text this to her, no need to make an effort by writing it down. And the good part is that you can copy the text and send it to more than one person…

8    8. Open up: this is me
A woman likes it when a man can open up to her and show her who he truly is.

Surprise your partner by showing her who you really are. The best way to do this is say

‘This is me. I want you to be part of my life.’

Then you can show her how you watch sports, movies, play games or eat a sandwich.

9    9. Quality time texting
Just being there for your partner can mean the world to her.

Spend some time with your partner by sitting at a table, facing each other. Play a little game called ‘No talking, just texting.’ Just look at how happy the couple in the picture is…Must be true!

There you have it, 9 GREAT ideas to celebrate your Valentine. And if you’d like to take it up a notch please check out my article 'Best sexy games of all time'